I knew it had been a while since I’ve blogged, but damn, I didn’t think it had been 6 months! I don’t even know where to begin with all of the drastic yet amazing changes that have been happening to me over the last half a year. I guess I should start from the beginning? Maybe? Let’s see.
At the end of March I decided to rejoin all of the dating apps: bumble, tinder, POF, OKCupid, & hinge. I had a few conversations going with a few men and nothing really seemed to hold my interest. On Bumble I had swiped right on someone who is younger than me and I found extremely attractive immediately. He happened to swipe right as well, but me being me, I had no idea how to start the conversation, let alone what someone his age would want with someone my age. So I let the first 24 hours pass by without sending a message. I told myself that if he extended another 24 hours I would message him. He did, surprisingly, so I messaged him. My first question to him was, “What does a 23 year old want with a 33 year old single mom?” And truthfully, his answer surprised me.
He had been in 3 long term relationships 1.5-3 years long, and they never seemed to go anywhere. He told me that girls his age just wanted sex or to be treated like shit so they could play the cat and mouse game, and that just wasn’t his thing. We talked for a few days via text message and then decided to meet on 4/1/2023. Honestly, I thought it was just a joke between him and his friends and I was going to get stood up. Meanwhile, he thought he was going to get stood up as well. We met at a local park and just smoked (while I still could) and talked.
He arrived before me and when I arrived, itr was downpouring. We tried to figure out which car we were going to sit in and he ended up coming into my Mazda. Now, when I tell you that it felt like electricity between us, it really did. Every freaking nerve ending in my body was tingling and I couldn’t understand what the hell was happening to me . . . but, lo and behold, he felt it all too, so it wasn’t just me. We talked, hung out, walked around when it wasn’t raining, and then the temp dropped and I was too cold to stay outside any longer. We decided to go back to my place and ended up just sitting on my couch talking about our lives, what we both want from a relationship, why previous relationships (and marriages have failed), and it was easy. There was no forcing the conversation to flow, no awkward pauses, no nothing.
Well, he ended up staying over that night and NO, we did not screw; however, we did kiss, and that was only after he asked if he could kiss me or if that would upset me. So right there, HUGE green flag! CONSENT! Yay! Over the course of the next few days we spent a ton of time together when I didn’t have my son, he stayed over, we began the intimate part of our relationship, and we’ve been inseparable ever since. Now, the curveball…
I’M PREGNANT. !!!
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Yep, almost 25 weeks! We were super cautious right off the bat and I’ve tracked every period, every ovulation since I had my son in 2019. My apps have never been wrong . . . until now. Lol. The first time we didn’t use protection or contraceptive of anytime, and boom, I’m pregnant. We found out super early, at 3 weeks and 4 days, and he is so excited to become a father. Since then he has formed a bond with my son like no other, my son refers to him as his second dad, his family and I have a great relationship, and this is hands down the healthiest, most compassionate, most caring relationship I’ve ever been in.
His mom and I are currently planning my baby shower. The divorce process has been started with my son’s father, FINALLY. I unfortunately had to hire a lawyer and that is killing my bank account right now, after he told me we’d skip the lawyer fees. I haven’t really talked to or seen much of my family because they have their own things going on and weren’t too thrilled that I am expecting, but overall, life has been good, really good. Don’t get me wrong, Blake and I have our moments, our issues, our fights, just like any other couple, but the difference with him is, when we are mad at one another, we talk about it then and there and don’t let it fester. If it isn’t something we can just “get over” we give ourselves 20 minutes to be mad and then we move on and continue on with our day instead of letting it ruin an entire 24 hours. We don’t go to bed angry, we don’t curse at each other, and we don’t insult the other if they’ve upset us.
I’m happy. Like finally, truly happy, happier than I’ve been in a long, long time and I can’t imagine building a future with someone not like Blake at this point. He’s young but he works harder than anyone I know. He helps me with things he doesn’t need to, like paying for some of my son’s birthday party (the decorations and pizzas), or helping me pay for my lawyer (he pays half). He’s just an overall amazing man and I am very, very lucky to have met him.
We also added 2 new kittens to our family: Binx & Busa. Both black and white like my 2 year old girl, but domestic short haired, and they are rambunctious as all hell. However, they bring us so much joy. The life I’ve always wanted is at my fingertips and I can finally see it. A man who adores me and treats me like a queen, a son who is my everything and still a complete mama’s boy, a “family” that although not biologically mine still treats me and my son as if we were, a daughter due in January, 6 days before her daddy’s birthday, and hope. Hope for a better future, a better second marriage, a better partnership. I finally have everything I’ve always prayed for and I couldn’t be more thankful.